Call me a woman, but I prefer the romantic & passionate dreams over the hard core XXX sex ones.
Actually, it's not really romance exactly. Chocolate and roses and stuff like that are boring in dreams. I like the really passionate ones...the way you feel when you are first attracted to someone - that FIRE, you know? Lots of passion. Those dreams are awesome.
I had one last night and I feel fantastic. It feels like I just met someone new and that I've got a crush going on. I've got that glowing happy feeling.
And not that I'm overly lacking in passion in my life or that I'm unhappy right now in that way. And I'm not LOOKING for anything outside my marriage. My husband and I have a very stable kind of love (at least if you ask me today we do. Ask me again tomorrow.)...we understand each other completely. We are companions. There is still attraction and passion, but I'm sorry, it will never be the way it was 16 years ago when we first met, b/c...well...we first met 16 years ago, not yesterday! It can't be repeated! It can be revised and revisited and rekindled, but not repeated.
So the dreams and getting that feeling back is fun. In my dream last night, I met Benicio Del Toro at a party.
I used to have a huge crush on him. He can look bad, but he can look really good sometimes in a dark way. At this party, he was really into me, and I was digging it. We flirted and flirted, and ended up in some back room. I can't even remember if we kissed or did anything, but we were getting there. Just the fact that he was attracted to me was awesome.You know how dreams are weird. Come to think of it, it wasn't really Benicio Del Toro. I mean it was supposed to be him, but he really looked more like Adrian Grenier. His eyes were definitely Adrian's.
There was also a little bit of this guy from Tracker in him, a Tracker I will not name! In my dream, this Benicio/Adrian/Tracker dude combo talked kind of funny. He was cute, but at times he looked squirrelly. But in the dream, I was like, "so he's a little odd. It's BENICIO DEL TORO! And he wants ME!".
And I woke up feeling all girlish and giddy, and I still feel that way.
I think that is the way to go. If you need that beginning of a relationship passion forever in your life, instead of getting divorced and remarried all the time in order to constantly try to maintain that beginning passion (and I know that's not the only reason people get divorced, but I do believe it's the reason for some), enjoy your dreams fully. If you don't dream, fantasize. My dreams are very safe. No one will get hurt, and I can enjoy the passion fully without any heartbreak. When I have dreams like that about my husband, that is the ideal. But I'll take movie stars, too.
Imaginary lovers
Never turn you down
When all the others turn you away
They're around
It's my private pleasure
Midnight fantasy
Someone to share my
Wildest dreams with me
Imaginary lover
You're mine anytime
Imaginary lover, oh yeah
When ordinary lovers
Don't feel what you feel
And real-life situations lose their thrill
Imagination's unreal
Imaginary lover, imaginary lover
You're mine anytime
[Instrumental Interlude]
Imaginary lovers never disagree
They always care
They're always there when you need
Satisfaction guaranteed
Imaginary lover, imaginary lover
You're mine all the time
My imaginary lover
You're mine anytime
It's a cheesy song to hear, but I like the words. And of course, don't forget The Everly Brothers:
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam, dream, dream, dream
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam, dream, dream, dream
When I want you in my arms
When I want you and all your charms
Whenever I want you, all I have to do is
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam, dream, dream, dream
When I feel blue in the night
And I need you to hold me tight
Whenever I want you, all I have to do is
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam
I can make you mine, taste your lips of wine
Anytime night or day
Only trouble is, gee whiz
I'm dreamin' my life away
I need you so that I could die
I love you so and that is why
Whenever I want you, all I have to do is
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam, dream, dream, dream
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam
I can make you mine, taste your lips of wine
Anytime night or day
Only trouble is, gee whiz
I'm dreamin' my life away
I need you so that I could die
I love you so and that is why
Whenever I want you, all I have to do is
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam, dream, dream, dream
Drea-ea-ea-ea-eam, dream, dream, dream
(But, "gee-whiz", that seems to be about someone specific and a bit obsessive and melodramatic.)
